Becoming a widow or widower is lonely and hard. There’s a pretty solid reason why “loss of a spouse” is the number one life stress event. It changes your life in a fundamental way and requires a complete revision of your future. That’s something difficult to comprehend unless you’ve gone through the same thing.
Welcome to PlanetWidowed, where content is always written by the widowed, for the widowed.
The goal when writing content for this site is to help provide some perspective on grief, some practical experience-based tips, and hopefully even a little bit of optimism about the future. I draw on my own experience of widowhood combined with things relayed by the couple hundred widowed people I’ve spoken with socially over the last few years. I am not a mental health or grief professional of any sort. I’m just a widow who is frustrated by the way we expect people to get over the death of a loved one in a few weeks.
In my personal blog, Reflections, you can read a little bit about some of the challenges I faced during the aftermath of my husband’s death. Some were huge, more were small, but every one of them left an indelible mark on me.
There’s a great quote in Mitch Albom’s book “The Five People You Meet in Heaven” that seems tailor-made for widowed people:
“But all endings are also beginnings.
We just don’t know it at the time.”
If there is one thing I’d urge you to keep in mind on this heartbreaking journey, it’s that Mitch got it right. Endings and beginnings are always intertwined in the most bittersweet way.
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